Is Lack of Gratitude Dragging Down Your Relationship?

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A new study suggests that mismatched thankfulness is bad for relationships. Imagine that you’ve embarked on a quest to be more grateful. You dutifully journal about the happy events in your day, training your mind to see the positives. You notice and begin to appreciate all the little things your partner does for you, from … Read more

When Are You Most Likely to Catch Other People’s Emotions?

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Researchers discovered an important factor that influences how contagious emotions are. In a new study, Stanford psychologists examined why some people respond differently to an upsetting situation and learned that people’s motivations play an important role in how they react. Their study found that when a person wanted to stay calm, they remained relatively unfazed … Read more

Being Empathic Doesn’t Make You a Pushover

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A new study finds that more prosocial people are less aggressive in competition—but they tend to win out in the long run. Looking back at the financial collapse of 2008, I often wonder: How could investors have been so greedy? It seems as if they were so bent on “winning” that they made pretty dumb … Read more

Why Is It So Hard to Apologize?

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“I’m sorry.” Those two little words can be so hard to say. Research reveals why we struggle to apologize. Apologies are the Brussels sprouts of relationships. Research says they’re good for us, and, like a dinner of the green stuff after a lunch of burger and fries, they can erase or at least mitigate the … Read more

Cheating Happens in Our Blind Spots

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By recognizing our blind spots, we can reduce the chances that we will cheat or be cheated on in our romantic relationships. When I was in my mid 20s I fell madly, deeply in love on a backpacking trip through Europe. We started a long-distance relationship between Vancouver, Canada, and Hamburg, Germany, and I didn’t … Read more

Loving People As They Are

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Through paying attention we learn that we are in a vibrant, enriching relationship with everyone around us. A friend once told me about repeated fights he had with his wife early on in their marriage. Much of their conflict centered on how to have dinner. He liked to eat hurriedly, standing up in the kitchen, … Read more

Five Ways Sleep Is Good for Your Relationships

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New research highlights how sleep benefits our social lives. I’m a sleep lover. I like going to bed at the same time every night and getting a full night’s sleep. Deprive me of just one hour of blessed sleep, and things quickly go downhill—just ask my husband. I become bad company—snarky and irritable, hardly able … Read more

Have You Been Neglecting Your Love Life?

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When we develop lazy love habits our deepest relationships suffer. Explore these three steps for awakening passion in your life. Falling in love is easy. You chase those glorious falling-in-love feelings as hard as you can, and when you catch them, you clamp down like your life depends on it. You have excitement, focus, and … Read more